It's often stated, but can't be emphasized enough - put your own oxygen mask on before helping others.
As my days in CELTA draw to a close, and I look at the journey of my action plan plus preparations for starting my own English language teaching business, I have to think about what keeps me sane. Self-care is a term that has unfortunately acquired a slew of negative connotations - among them, "avoidance" and "indulgence." In reality, self-care is exactly what keeps us sane. It has nothing to do with avoidance (if you're properly caring for yourself, you can confront your problems), and it has nothing to do with indulgence (if you're caring for yourself, it's easier to control your impulses). Self-care is essential, especially in the education field.
So how does it work? While it really is different for everyone, I'll offer my own tips.
Make time for hobbies. Your hobbies can be anything - crafting, gaming, writing, reading, cooking, gardening - but they have to be meaningful to you. So how do we make time for them? Start by tracking how you spend your time. There are many helpful apps to do so. The elephant in the room is that a lot of us spend way too much time on social media. While I, personally, have junked Facebook, Twitter, Reddit, and Instagram, I admit that I still spend quite a bit of time on Pinterest. So consciously cutting down on social media can help. Also, making rough schedules each week can ease the transition by giving you slots to fill with hobby time.
Make time for decompression. Social media isn't decompression. Too many complex emotions get stirred. Instead, why not listen to music? Put on a playlist for singing along. Or watch a TV show or movie that you really love, that doesn't make you think, and that's pure comfort viewing. Personally, I like to watch Sailor Moon and My Little Pony: Friendship Is Magic. Other people I know coped with medical school by watching trashy reality TV. Go for your comfort listening and viewing.
Make time to journal. Paper and pen journaling is having a bit of a vogue right now, but don't bite off more than you can chew. Commit to no more than five minutes per day. If more happens, great! But commit to five minutes of writing. Guided journals can be very helpful; I use one called Let's Talk About Mental Health. Clever Fox's Self-Care Journal (complete with stickers), Monica Sweeney's Zen As F*ck, and Kara Cutruzulla's Do It For Yourself are also attractive (and affordable) options.
Make time for people. Connecting to people is essential for mental health. Try to schedule something social at least once a week. If you have a significant other, schedule something special with them once a week on top of that. Meet a friend or friends at a cafe. Have a movie night or game night. Invite friends round for dinner. It doesn't have to be an elaborate or expensive activity.
Make time for culture. Art galleries, lectures, concerts, museums, zoos - all provide something to think about. Art galleries often have free admission, as do lectures. As for concerts, zoos, and museums - often discounted tickets are available, if you do some hunting. In my country all museums and zoos offer special prices for pensioners, students, and people with disabilities. Always ask the ticketing office.
I am not, of course, suggesting everything on this list be done all at once. Not everything will work for you. But I think all these things are helpful in keeping sane and grounded.